Earlier this week, I said goodbye to Facebook for good. Well, at least to my original account since I have created a new one a couple of months ago. I had been wanting to do this for a very long time. The only reason why I was not doing so was because my attorney had asked me not to. But I had to do what I needed to do for myself and to continue with my healing journey, even if that meant going against my attorney’s advise. And my original account on Facebook felt like something that needed to be removed from my life like a surgeon removes a malignant tumor. And I am so glad I finally did.
I believe there’s always a moment when we finally realize that there’s nothing inside that person we thought we knew, we loved, we gave up everything for. For me, there were two distinctive moments. I didn’t put my finger on it the first time. It was like that last step the diver takes on the platform when ready to jump. The only difference for me was not a pool full of water waiting for me many meters below. It was coldness that surrounded me. I was sitting next to coldness. And it made sense. Love is anything but cold. And nothing but coldness was coming from the space he was occupying.
If you’ve read my book Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare, you know I have a whole section in it dedicated to translating commonly used phrases that are essentially used as weapons in the hands of an emotional predator. I’ve created a list of these to give you the shorter version. Spoiler alert: it’s not pretty. But it is useful to decoding […]