No More Narchole

Narcissism: One of the few conditions where the patient is left alone and everyone is treated.

After all, you did it to yourself

“Friendship is delicate as a glass: Once broken, it can be fixed; but there will always be cracks.”

It is always sad when you have to make certain decisions, such as letting go of a friendship that was important to you. But when on the road to recovery,  you need to do what helps you to keep moving forward. And some of those decisions are not easy.

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The Dream House

“Here lies Walter Fielding. He bought a house and it killed him.” (Tom Hanks in the Money Pit, 1986)

In many neighbourhoods, there is always one house that seems to be on sale more times than not. Owners don’t seem to last and you can’t help but wonder why.

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Are you coming?

“There’s nothing worse than a man that can be everything to everybody else, except a father to his own child.” ~ Unknown.

When I woke up this morning, my mother asked me if I was coming to Mass with her. I said no.

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“At some point, you are going to want to give up. Consider this a reminder: Don’t you dare.” ~ Karen Salmansohn

We’re approaching the final stage in our divorce and it is taking all of my strength to keep myself calm and levelheaded. I am exhausted. I have not felt like this in a very long time.

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Father’s Day, Narc Day

“I supposed you’re not going to get him anything for Father’s Day, are you?,” my mother asked me. No, I will not buy him anything for Father’s Day, at least not this year. But this is a question I’m sure a lot of mothers out there who were once married to their children’s narcissistic father are asking themselves, not just for Father’s Day, but for his birthday and other holidays.

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Tools for Healing: Meditation

“Scars have the strange power to remind us that our past is real.” ~ Cormac McCarthy (American novelist and playwright.)

I haven’t written anything in the Tools for Healing series for a while. I decided it was about time I write a new entry for this series and, this time, it is about meditation, specifically, meditation for Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) abuse victims.

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Me, Me, and Me

To continue this string of holidays, special days, birthdays, anniversaries, weddings, and take overs, I remember yet another thing that happened on my last birthday while I was still married and I knew nothing about his plans to get a divorce.

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It’s my party and I’ll cry if I want to

“I had longed to be a butterfly, and I was one at last. I attended private parties in sumptuous evening dress, simpered and aired my graces like a born beau, and polkaed and schoisched with a step peculiar to myself – and the kangaroo.” ~ Mark Twain

And talking about parties, I am so glad my daughter is not aware of some things that go around her. But I do not know how much longer she will continue to do so. In fact, she is very aware of many things going around, only that because of her being autistic, she does not say anything about them, yet. But as she gets older, it won’t be as easy for her father to hide things from me. And she will start to express her likes and dislikes better and clearer than now, as she is still very young and non-verbal.

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