No More Narchole

Narcissism: One of the few conditions where the patient is left alone and everyone is treated.

Fool Me Once

I was talking to a friend of mine who has been my other strongest rock during my divorce. She is also divorced. Her marriage lasted longer than mine. But her problems with her ex narc husband are even bigger than mine, to the point that she had to even ask for a restraining order.

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Which bad option do you like the most?

“Know the rules well, so you can break them effectively.” ~ Dalai Lama XIV

That quote may apply to anyone who does not have to deal with a narcissist. But when it comes to having to deal with one, especially if he or she is your children’s parent, then you must stick to the rules for dear life. I’m learning this in a very painful way.

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Imaginary Flying Pillow

I recently remembered something that happened during our last vacation. Hold on! Let me rephrase that: During the one and only vacation we ever took.

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The Queen Mother and The Busy Bee

Things are calming down a little bit for me, I think. I have been attending training sessions at work, dealing with the last aspects of my divorce, and with some changes that have been made to my daughter’s therapy schedules. In other words, I need more than 24 hours in a day lately.

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I was watching America’s Got Talent the other night. The last contestant sang a song that I had never heard before. If you asked me how she sang, I would not really know as I was hypnotized by the lyrics.

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Co-Parenting with a Narc and Holidays (Part 2)

This post is more about gaslighting and mind tricks than co-parenting, actually. But since it all started with what I talked about in my last post, I decided to call it Part 2. If you haven’t read my last post, please do so and come back so you can understand how this all started.

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Co-Parenting with a Narc and Holidays

I wasn’t going to post anything for a few more days. But something happened and I thought I would share. This is an example of what to expect when co-parenting with a narcissistic ex-spouse.

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After all, you did it to yourself

“Friendship is delicate as a glass: Once broken, it can be fixed; but there will always be cracks.”

It is always sad when you have to make certain decisions, such as letting go of a friendship that was important to you. But when on the road to recovery,  you need to do what helps you to keep moving forward. And some of those decisions are not easy.

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The Dream House

“Here lies Walter Fielding. He bought a house and it killed him.” (Tom Hanks in the Money Pit, 1986)

In many neighbourhoods, there is always one house that seems to be on sale more times than not. Owners don’t seem to last and you can’t help but wonder why.

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Are you coming?

“There’s nothing worse than a man that can be everything to everybody else, except a father to his own child.” ~ Unknown.

When I woke up this morning, my mother asked me if I was coming to Mass with her. I said no.

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“At some point, you are going to want to give up. Consider this a reminder: Don’t you dare.” ~ Karen Salmansohn

We’re approaching the final stage in our divorce and it is taking all of my strength to keep myself calm and levelheaded. I am exhausted. I have not felt like this in a very long time.

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Father’s Day, Narc Day

“I supposed you’re not going to get him anything for Father’s Day, are you?,” my mother asked me. No, I will not buy him anything for Father’s Day, at least not this year. But this is a question I’m sure a lot of mothers out there who were once married to their children’s narcissistic father are asking themselves, not just for Father’s Day, but for his birthday and other holidays.

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