No More Narchole

Narcissism: One of the few conditions where the patient is left alone and everyone is treated.


My Journey

The Power of Adaptation

“The measure of intelligence is the ability to change.” ~ Albert Einstein

This week is the 5th anniversary of my becoming a U.S. citizen. This anniversary did not come on times of peace and understanding. It is quite a different world from when I first arrived to the United States. Those were the days of relative peace. Everybody went by minding their own business. A few months later, the world and especially this country was turned upside down when airplanes became weapons.

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300 days!

What a journey since that very first post! And I wouldn’t have it any other way. In and out of here. Here’s to healing and recovering. May our journey open doors to the best we can be and to a fruitful and rewarding life!

Dropping the A Bomb

I would like to officially introduce my new blog where I will be talking exclusively about how me and my daughter get to know each other through the Autism lens. Back in July and while undergoing the court-mandated psychological tests, we were given a preliminary diagnosis of Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) for our daughter. A couple of months later, we have an official diagnosis and, oh boy! You cannot imagine the things my husband the narc is putting me through now.

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Two steps forward, three steps backwards

That’s how I’ve been feeling lately. I read in a few articles and other survivors’ blogs, as well as being told in person, that it gets worse with a narc once you’re battling through a divorce. And gosh! Weren’t they right!

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Promise me, 10 minutes a day

Those were the last words my attorney said to me last week after we walked out from the court. I am so glad that I have found an attorney who truly understands what emotional abuse is. Now that is easier said than done. I’ve been for months trying to find time for myself, unsuccessfully.

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Confronting And Working on Myself in The Face of Narcissism

As I mentioned in my previous post about Lisa A. Romano’s video about life skills, I wanted to expand and talk about my own experience. I’ll once again list the five skills she talks about in here for your reference, as follows,

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I’ve been really struggling these past few days. I think I need to fire my divorce attorney. He doesn’t respond to my phone calls or e-mail messages when I need to reach him. When he finally calls me back, a couple of days might have gone by. I have no idea what he’s doing. I don’t know what we’re supposed to do. He’s not preparing me for mediation or letting me know what comes next. This is not the way I expected him to represent me.

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Giving Up What You’re Passionate About

This weekend, I was taking one more look around the basement to make sure I had already taken all of my stuff that I know my husband will not claim during the division of goods and properties in the divorce. I found a tote in a corner that I had forgotten about. It was full of things that I was supposed to use during my volunteering work for an international, Christian organization that implements programs for children in developing countries.

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When the Church asks even more of you

I was reading an article about what happens when the church does not recognize abuse. While the article talks about churches in general and not one particular religion, I’ll share an experience from my own religion that confirms what the article says.

I’m a Catholic and just a few weeks before I would be served with the divorce papers, I finally built up the courage to go to my parish and talk to the priest. I went through confession and shared everything with him. The only acknowledgement I got from the priest was that my husband was selfish and, for penance, he urged me to seek marriage counseling.

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