No More Narchole

Narcissism: One of the few conditions where the patient is left alone and everyone is treated.




Almost a month ago, I had said that two things had happened and ended up talking about just the one. To some degree, I’m glad I waited longer to post about the other thing because more things have been happening ever since that I feel are related and they all took place during Mass.

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We All Have Scars

I wanted to share BeautyBeyondBones entry for today. If you’re not familiar with this blog, then let this be your introduction. In this particular article entitled ‘Strangers on a plane‘ she shares her thoughts after noticing the passenger next to her had scars from self-inflicted injuries.

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Do you believe me?

I asked my attorney. “Do NOT lose faith. You are stronger than that. I believe in you, your mom does and a lot of other people who provide you great support.” I go back to the e-mail message. I keep on reading her words in probably a desperate effort to find the strength to not give up. I can’t help but cry a little while reading them. And she’s right. I am stronger than this. I do have support from my closest friends and I don’t know where I would be without my mom. But I can’t help feeling this way when I feel I’m swimming against the current.

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In a very dark place

Before I get to it, I want to say that this entry may be found triggering for some readers. I just want to warn you. I’m already in a dark place. I don’t want to drag other people there with me. So please, stop reading if you must. I encourage you to do so.

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Finding my passion once again after NPD abuse

I was going to publish a post about fear and then I changed my mind. I may talk about fear sometime in the future. However, two things happened today that made me change my mind. One of them is the topic for this post. The other one, the sermon at Mass. But let’s get to it, shall we?

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Tools for Healing: Wake Up To The Word

I found this book by chance while grocery shopping at the supermarket. It was on a shelf not in the books section of the store, but amongst some other merchandise where it clearly didn’t belong. Some other person might have left it there after changing his or her mind and deciding not to buy it, which allowed for me to happen upon it. Those are the kind of things that make me think that God can sometimes act in mysterious but yet simple ways.

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Unfinished Business

I don’t know if this is a normal thing with narcissists, but my husband never finishes a task or project. I mean, my understanding of finishing a project or task includes picking after yourself, especially when it can affect other people. My husband would start a project, sometimes months after he said that he was going to start it, it would take him several days to get through it when it could have been completed in one afternoon, and then he would leave tools, trash, and everything else all over the place, for weeks.

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Divorcing a Narcissist: A Humbling Experience

The title for this post might not be the kind of title you would expect on a blog about surviving Narcissistic Personality Disorder abuse. But that is precisely what I have realized this past weekend.

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Save Water: Share The Shower With Your Narc

That’s what my husband, the narcissist, is accusing me of and on what he’s basing the whole divorce petition. Of being an extremely controlling person. It’s interesting how they accuse you of the very things they do to you. This past weekend, I remember how I would not even get to be by myself when I needed it, even in the bathroom.

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Never Try to Guess with a Narc

In a previous post, I shared how I signed up for a gym after my attorney had made me promised that I would start to do something for myself every day, even if it was just for 10 minutes. I was so excited. I had a great week that week when I finally was able to get back to the gym. And then… everything started to happen.

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Faith: The Long and Winding Road in the Face of Divorce

I’ve been thinking a lot about faith lately, not just about during the saddest and most confusing times of my marriage, but in general, since I can remember.

Going through the divorce has made me question a lot of things, about my beliefs, how I was raised as a Catholic, how the nuns at my school taught us about God, how my family taught me about God and the Virgin Mary and everything we Catholics believe in, and more.

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I finally did something for myself

I have been wanting to go back to church for the longest time. Since meeting my husband, I slowly started to not attend Mass anymore. He’s not a Catholic like me and he doesn’t really profess any faith. And I was okay with that, since I have always believed that we all have our own individual paths to walk when it comes to faith and religion. The way I see it, it will be between each one of us and God on the Day of the Final Judgment and we individually will have to be accountable for our actions or lack thereof.

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Looking for Spiritual Support and Failing

I was listening to the Catholic radio on Sirius XM the other day on my way back from work. they were talking about the abuse in the Church. I don’t know which radio program was. I don’t listen to that station that frequently. But once in a while I catch some topic that sparks my curiosity and I stop browsing stations.

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Even at the expense of their own children

A narcissist will do everything and anything in order to preserve the False Self, even at the expense of the people who are supposed to be important to them and loved by them. If you know anything about NPD, then you already know that they are incapable of loving. Therefore, that first statement I made about the people they loved is not quite right.

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When the Church asks even more of you

I was reading an article about what happens when the church does not recognize abuse. While the article talks about churches in general and not one particular religion, I’ll share an experience from my own religion that confirms what the article says.

I’m a Catholic and just a few weeks before I would be served with the divorce papers, I finally built up the courage to go to my parish and talk to the priest. I went through confession and shared everything with him. The only acknowledgement I got from the priest was that my husband was selfish and, for penance, he urged me to seek marriage counseling.

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