That’s what my husband, the narcissist, is accusing me of and on what he’s basing the whole divorce petition. Of being an extremely controlling person. It’s interesting how they accuse you of the very things they do to you. This past weekend, I remember how I would not even get to be by myself when I needed it, even in the bathroom.
That’s the definition of forgive by Merriam-Webster. I am having problems with forgiveness. I’ll go step by step. Let’s look at the first explanation of the word forgive, as follows,
to give up resentment of or claim to requital for <forgive an insult>
If I am to be honest, I have to say that many of the things my husband has done to me are insults. He may have not used insulting words, but he lied to me, he distorted my reality, he has disrespected me. By doing all of that, he has basically broken his vow to love me. And this is something difficult to forgive and I have resented him for doing all of that and more.