No More Narchole

Narcissism: One of the few conditions where the patient is left alone and everyone is treated.



Do not enter

“I am learning to trust the journey, even when I do not understand it.” ~ Mila Bron

I made a point of staying away from social media on Mother’s Day. I actually didn’t even check anything online yesterday, not e-mail, not the news, not Whatsapp, no Facebook, nothing. I didn’t want to be reminded of what Mother’s Day wasn’t for me.

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Brown Matter

“The three great essentials to achieve anything worth while are: Hard work, Stick-to-itiveness, and Common Sense.” ~ Thomas Alba Edison (American Inventor, 1847-1931)

I think I’m going to throw the parenting common-sense book out the window. Apparently, common sense and consideration have no room in parenting with someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD.) I should know that by now; however, for the sake of my child, I seem to be hanging to a small thread of unfounded hope.

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Filing Income Tax Jointly for The Last Time

“Death, taxes, and childbirth! There’s never any convenient time for any of them.” ~ Margaret Mitchell

With the deadline for filing 2017 income tax returns fast approaching, I wanted to share my (I hope) last experience filing jointly with my narc.

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And then she said “bye”

One of the things I have not mentioned because I have not had time to get around to do so is the epic battle I had with my daughter’s father concerning our daughter’s autism treatment and therapies.

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NPD Abuse, Attorneys, Lawyers, and Solicitors

“Human progress is neither automatic, nor inevitable. Every step towards the goal of justice requires sacrifice, suffering, and struggle; the tireless exertions and passionate concern of dedicated individuals.” ~ Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

Anybody who has experienced Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) abuse and ended up in court knows how difficult it is to find an attorney who not only knows how to navigate the court system, but who can also understand our situation as NPD survivors and victims.

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It’s just dinner

An outstanding piece written by Crazybutttricia. Please, reblog. This is exactly what I was talking about the other day and in the article I found, but she’s so much more eloquent than me. We need to let the legal system know how we feel, how they are affecting our children’s lives, that they can’t treat them like property to be divided equally and fairly, that the system is obsolete and doesn’t work.

Breaking a little piece at a time

“When everything seems to be going against you, remember that the plane takes off against the wind, not with it.” ~ Henry Ford

Today was a very hard day for me. I could not shake the image of my daughter crying out of my mind no matter what I would try. The small sense of victory from yesterday was squashed by her departure this morning.

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I feel like giving up

~ A narcissist will always have someone they accuse of ruining their life. It is invariably the same person the narcissist is trying to destroy.

I wanted to write last week. But I could not find the energy. It proved to be a very difficult week to me.

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He will continue to do whatever he wants

“Our strength grows out of our weaknesses.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

I have read blogs and articles by other Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) abuse survivors saying to prepare for court as if your life would depend on it because many times it actually is. And after my own experience, this is such a truthful statement, much more so when you’re dealing with custody and a child with disabilities.

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Expect the unexpected

“He who is not every day conquering some fear has not learned the secret of life.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

I shouldn’t be surprised by now. But I think that’s the problem, right there. I don’t think about the father of my daughter at all. I just go about my day. I do what I need to do. I am rebuilding my life bit by bit. But then, he does something. Surprise, surprise! It is usually something unexpected, until I stop to really think about it and it is just a twist of something he has already done before, but with different elements. It feels the same, but it doesn’t. I am not sure if I’m making any sense.

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A day like today, a year ago

“It feels amazing when you no longer need or want the person who walked away from you.”

I don’t know who said that, but it is true. This week is the 1-year anniversary of my being served divorce papers, the ultimate discard action. I say the ultimate because it makes it official, with the law, even when the marriage could have been dead long before.

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Going home

“No matter how hard the past, you can always begin again.” ~ Buddha

What a week! I have not had time to write, so busy I have been. The main reason… drum roll, please… I am finally home!!!

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What Would You Like to Change?

There’s a blog I follow in here, Make It Ultra. I found this entry there today: I felt compelled to answer that question. What follows is my answer. And after reading it once again, I had realized that, despite everything that I’m still dealing with concerning the divorce and custody battles, I am in fact finding myself once again. Indeed, it is a great feeling, one I not long ago thought I would never feel.

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Maybe not today

I’m having a hard day today. My daughter has been feverish and not doing well for the last few days and I don’t feel I can make any decisions concerning her, at all.

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When the tables are turned

~ Love doesn’t hurt. Lying, cheating, and screwing with people’s feelings and emotions hurt.

How great it feels when you can finally show the narcissist in your life that their threats and insults just slide from you like nothing. I still have a long way to go. However, the argument we had the other night has proven that I have come a long way from where I was about 3 years ago.

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