An outstanding piece written by Crazybutttricia. Please, reblog. This is exactly what I was talking about the other day and in the article I found, but she’s so much more eloquent than me. We need to let the legal system know how we feel, how they are affecting our children’s lives, that they can’t treat them like property to be divided equally and fairly, that the system is obsolete and doesn’t work.
“When everything seems to be going against you, remember that the plane takes off against the wind, not with it.” ~ Henry Ford
Today was a very hard day for me. I could not shake the image of my daughter crying out of my mind no matter what I would try. The small sense of victory from yesterday was squashed by her departure this morning.
~ A narcissist will always have someone they accuse of ruining their life. It is invariably the same person the narcissist is trying to destroy.
I wanted to write last week. But I could not find the energy. It proved to be a very difficult week to me.
“Our strength grows out of our weaknesses.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
I have read blogs and articles by other Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) abuse survivors saying to prepare for court as if your life would depend on it because many times it actually is. And after my own experience, this is such a truthful statement, much more so when you’re dealing with custody and a child with disabilities.
“He who is not every day conquering some fear has not learned the secret of life.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
I shouldn’t be surprised by now. But I think that’s the problem, right there. I don’t think about the father of my daughter at all. I just go about my day. I do what I need to do. I am rebuilding my life bit by bit. But then, he does something. Surprise, surprise! It is usually something unexpected, until I stop to really think about it and it is just a twist of something he has already done before, but with different elements. It feels the same, but it doesn’t. I am not sure if I’m making any sense.
“It feels amazing when you no longer need or want the person who walked away from you.”
I don’t know who said that, but it is true. This week is the 1-year anniversary of my being served divorce papers, the ultimate discard action. I say the ultimate because it makes it official, with the law, even when the marriage could have been dead long before.
There’s a blog I follow in here, Make It Ultra. I found this entry there today: http://wp.me/p7bq2c-6Lp. I felt compelled to answer that question. What follows is my answer. And after reading it once again, I had realized that, despite everything that I’m still dealing with concerning the divorce and custody battles, I am in fact finding myself once again. Indeed, it is a great feeling, one I not long ago thought I would never feel.