So once again, I had to wait for my husband to come back with our daughter from his parents’ this past Saturday. And once again, he was late. And once again, he tried to gaslight me. It’s getting old.
Before I dive into what I’m going to say to you, just note that the ‘Dear’ opening this letter is merely a formality resulting from the way the English language works. So take that lightly. With that out of the way, let’s get to business.
How many times do we get to see the Stanley Cup during the hockey season? Not much really. They bring it out for special occasions and nearing the end of the season. That’s pretty much it. And for the finals. When a team is finally crowned the champion, then Stanley gets to be paraded all over the court and then the team’s hometown. Then Stanley goes into hibernation until it’s time to take her out again. Well, that’s pretty much what happens to my daughter when it comes to her father. I could have as well named her Stanley, just like the NHL cup.
Just a brief entry today to share that I have added some links to articles and web sites providing resources in preparation to custody evaluation. You will find these in the Resources section and then select Articles. (You may need to scroll down to see the “For Parents” section.)
… until today when I took my daughter out for almost a couple of hours. I told my husband that I needed to run some errands with her. I let him assumed we were going out for clothes. Once out, I made a brief stopped by the post office and then headed out to a nearby park.
I had the best Mother’s Day ever!!! I spent it “mothering.” And I loved every minute of it!! Even though this was supposed to be my third Mother’s Day, in reality, this was my very first one.
First time I heard about the grey rock method I thought that was a good tool that I needed to master. Unfortunately, I guess I’m a little bit of a hot-head due to my Italian gens. Therefore, sometimes I go from grey rock to red molten lava. It is actually hard for me to go and stay grey rock sometimes. Narcissists can really put you through the test.
I’m writing to you to thank you for being such a great example and role model to me. Just by observing you and having met your son, my soon-to-be ex-husband, I have learnt a great deal about motherhood and parenthood in general.
A narcissist will do everything and anything in order to preserve the False Self, even at the expense of the people who are supposed to be important to them and loved by them. If you know anything about NPD, then you already know that they are incapable of loving. Therefore, that first statement I made about the people they loved is not quite right.