No More Narchole

Narcissism: One of the few conditions where the patient is left alone and everyone is treated.



Brown Matter

“The three great essentials to achieve anything worth while are: Hard work, Stick-to-itiveness, and Common Sense.” ~ Thomas Alba Edison (American Inventor, 1847-1931)

I think I’m going to throw the parenting common-sense book out the window. Apparently, common sense and consideration have no room in parenting with someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD.) I should know that by now; however, for the sake of my child, I seem to be hanging to a small thread of unfounded hope.

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Breaking a little piece at a time

“When everything seems to be going against you, remember that the plane takes off against the wind, not with it.” ~ Henry Ford

Today was a very hard day for me. I could not shake the image of my daughter crying out of my mind no matter what I would try. The small sense of victory from yesterday was squashed by her departure this morning.

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He will continue to do whatever he wants

“Our strength grows out of our weaknesses.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

I have read blogs and articles by other Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) abuse survivors saying to prepare for court as if your life would depend on it because many times it actually is. And after my own experience, this is such a truthful statement, much more so when you’re dealing with custody and a child with disabilities.

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Today… No, tomorrow. No! Both days

So once again, I had to wait for my husband to come back with our daughter from his parents’ this past Saturday. And once again, he was late. And once again, he tried to gaslight me. It’s getting old.

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Dear Narcissistic Future Ex-Husband

Before I dive into what I’m going to say to you, just note that the ‘Dear’ opening this letter is merely a formality resulting from the way the English language works. So take that lightly. With that out of the way, let’s get to business.

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I’d like to introduce you to my daughter Stanley

How many times do we get to see the Stanley Cup during the hockey season? Not much really. They bring it out for special occasions and nearing the end of the season. That’s pretty much it. And for the finals. When a team is finally crowned the champion, then Stanley gets to be paraded all over the court and then the team’s hometown. Then Stanley goes into hibernation until it’s time to take her out again. Well, that’s pretty much what happens to my daughter when it comes to her father. I could have as well named her Stanley, just like the NHL cup.

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Resources for Child Custody

Just a brief entry today to share that I have added some links to articles and web sites providing resources in preparation to custody evaluation. You will find these in the Resources section and then select¬†Articles. (You may need to scroll down to see the “For Parents” section.)

She’s 3 and we’ve never went out together

… until today when I took my daughter out for almost a couple of hours. I told my husband that I needed to run some errands with her. I let him assumed we were going out for clothes. Once out, I made a brief stopped by the post office and then headed out to a nearby park.

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The Third Mother’s Day is the Charmed

I had the best Mother’s Day ever!!! I spent it “mothering.” And I loved every minute of it!! Even though this was supposed to be my third Mother’s Day, in reality, this was my very first one.

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Grey Rock and Your Children

First time I heard about the grey rock method I thought that was a good tool that I needed to master. Unfortunately, I guess I’m a little bit of a hot-head due to my Italian gens. Therefore, sometimes I go from grey rock to red molten lava. It is actually hard for me to go and stay grey rock sometimes. Narcissists can really put you through the test.

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Letter to my mother-in-law, the other narcissist in my life

Dear MIL,

I’m writing to you to thank you for being such a great example and role model to me. Just by observing you and having met your son, my soon-to-be ex-husband, I have learnt a great deal about motherhood and parenthood in general.

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Even at the expense of their own children

A narcissist will do everything and anything in order to preserve the False Self, even at the expense of the people who are supposed to be important to them and loved by them. If you know anything about NPD, then you already know that they are incapable of loving. Therefore, that first statement I made about the people they loved is not quite right.

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Anybody up there? Anything?

Sometimes you have to wonder if they even think at all. I had a small argument with my soon-to-be ex-husband this morning. I’m going to spare you the details of what prompted the argument apart from the fact that he wanted to do something that would change our daughter’s night routine. But what does he care? He never did. So why would he start caring now?

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